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[ragdoll13]

I've been thinking about body image lately, and how lucky I've been by and large to have had lovers who built up my image of myself rather than slowly wearing it down. I remember that with more than one of them, I would ask, "what do you like best about my body?" I would make them go into detail, asking specifically why and what it was they liked about it and how it made them feel. I'm certain they felt that I was fishing for compliments, but after a while of turning the answers over in my mind, they started to mean something to me, and I would get to the point where I could see myself through their eyes to an extent, and it allowed me to see myself as someone who is sexy and beautiful and desireable. I miss that.

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[velveteen.livejournal.com]

I am trying to make sure that several of my friends your size know how beautiful they are - and that the only difference between a big and a small human's attractiveness is, more often than not, their willingness to be loved and their self-esteem.

So it's really good to hear this from you - in my experience, being attractive is really a matter of understanding that you are, and then it's just a matter of time.

[harriet-m-welsh.livejournal.com]

You are lucky to have had lovers like that.

I feel that the larger I am, the less I am noticed by my lovers. Like the more I weigh, the more I just become part of the house, like a pirate on the Flying Dutchman.